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Beauty Obsessed

  • Ivona Josipovic
  • 29 November 2015

Beauty has always been attracting our attention. We strive to achieve it in many different fields like art, design, architecture. It also inspires us to create the most beautiful poems, paintings and songs. While beauty standards have changed throughout the years, some principles have remained the same. We will always respond well to symmetry and harmony, as our minds like to find some order even in such abstract thing as beauty.

We cannot mention beauty without thinking about women. I will intentionally leave men out of this talk, not because they are not beautiful, but because they don’t face the same issues as us girls do, and they don’t face them as often as us. Now, we can all have our own definitions of what makes a person beautiful, but I want to stay on the skin deep level. For some it’s big blue eyes, for others it’s full lips, or sharp defined cheek bones. If you’re lucky enough and had won a DNA lottery you might have all three of those. Maybe you also got tiny waist and luscious hair and you get to look great without putting much effort into it. But, how about the rest of us? How far are you willing to go in order to be beautiful?

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You don’t like your curly hair? That’s easy, just get a hair straightener. Don’t like the colour of your eyes, or the size of your eyelashes? Get contacts and fake eyelashes. Think your nose is too big? Well, you can always have a plastic surgery. Basically, anything that’s too big or too small can be fixed with some products or a visit to the plastic surgeon. The statistics prove without a doubt, that more and more women all over the world are doing exactly that. They are going under the knife to get something fixed, often without even realising that surgeries can be dangerous and even life threatening. So, I am wondering – Where along the way did we loose the compass and became so beauty obsessed that we were willing to risk our lives because of our looks? Is beauty really the number one priority for women nowadays?

We are all guilty of it more or less. Think about all the time you dedicate to your appearance. Think about all the money you give on products like makeup and skin care and hair care and so on. As women, we do have a special connection with the way we look, and that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Getting a manicure can change my mood and it’s not something I plan to give up on. Taking time to care about ourselves can make us feel all more confident and good in our skin. I am all up for it as long as we don’t forget that that’s not all of who we are. We need to make little girls realise that looks are not everything. We need to tell them they’re smart and kind, and not just how pretty they are and that they look like princesses. We need to teach them to be strong, so one day when they grow up they won’t feel insecure or try to chase the unachievable beauty ideals created in a computer or in a hospital. Beauty is great and we will always appreciate it, but in this chase of beauty obsessed people I feel we will never win. After all, you can always be a bit skinnier, your boobs can always be a bit bigger, your waist could be smaller, hair longer, nose smaller, legs longer, butt bigger and I could go on forever. So why waste so much time focusing on something that will fade away sooner or later? Girls, let’s wake up and start focusing on things that really matter and that will get us far in life. Treat yourself right, but don’t forget that under the skin, you have so many more layers to yourself and they deserve your attention too.

Please share your thoughts in the comments bellow, and if you want to hear more about this topic I recommend TED Talk called An epidemic of beauty sickness.

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Ivona Josipovic

Ivona Josipovic is a co-founder of The Smoke Detector, writer, fashion stylist, social media manager, curious creature, chocolate lover.

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11 comments
  1. jillian says:
    30 November 2015 at 04:48

    confidence is key, and doing the things that make you feel good. Great read!
    xo, jill
    http://www.BornFancy.com

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  2. Rachel Holliday says:
    30 November 2015 at 11:23

    I think that it’s totally how you feel- and if you feel beautiful it shines through! It scares me that a lot of young women just want to look like clones of eachother, I like that you’ve used Heidi Montag as an example- i thought she was beautiful before the surgery. Now she looks 20 years older and has just ruined herself.

    Rachel xx
    http://www.thedailyluxe.net

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  3. Catarina says:
    30 November 2015 at 12:54

    You are absolutely right! I always love to read what you right! Good job!
    http://www.silkypearl.com/

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  4. Kathy says:
    30 November 2015 at 14:17

    So true. I do use make up and get highligts for my hair, but I will never get plastic surgery or probably ever try botox. This was a great post!

    Kathy
    http://www.glamsimplified.com

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  5. Danielle says:
    30 November 2015 at 14:41

    We should take care of ourselves by eating healthy food and working out to stay healthy and PREVENT DISEASES. Obsessing about beauty won’t have positive effects on us.

    http://www.spring2spring.com

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  6. Gemma says:
    30 November 2015 at 14:43

    so interesting! I loved reading. Gemma xx
    http://www.jacquardflower.uk

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  7. Anouk says:
    30 November 2015 at 19:28

    The other day I was looking at celebrities who had undergone plastic surgery to maintain their youthful looks. It was a bit off putting. I don’t think that I’d ever go for something drastic and extreme.

    LUXESSED

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  8. Shauna says:
    30 November 2015 at 22:47

    Totally agree!! obsessing over beauty is such a bad trait to have, but it’s hard not to in this world we live in..

    shauna

    http://www.lipglossandlace.net

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  9. Julianna says:
    1 December 2015 at 01:54

    This is such an important blog post and you wrote about the topic beautifully! Thank you so much for sharing!

    xx Juilanna
    http://www.blushandcamo.com

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  10. Diana says:
    1 December 2015 at 02:31

    Agreed about confidence! It does help a lot!

    http://www.queenhorsfall.com/

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  11. Rena says:
    6 December 2015 at 16:59

    This is indeed an interesting topic! For me it is a pity that woman want to look like other woman and that they are not satisfy in the way they are …
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    http://www.dressedwithsoul.com

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