The older I get in life (I sound like an old lady, but I’m actually turning 27 in two weeks) the more I realise the importance of confidence. It is not something we are born with, but luckily, it is something that we can work on. When I was a teenager it seemed to me that confidence was something that only a few of the lucky people had. I didn’t realise that you can develop it and water it like a plant. Thankfully, the older I got, I started feeling more confident and I understood what it actually meant to have real confidence in yourself.
Going through life and being fortunate to live in various countries, I got the chance to meet people from all over the world. Watching them struggle with different areas of their lives, I realised all of them had something in common. They were all struggling with their confidence. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that lack of confidence is a source of all problems. It causes many problems but not ALL of them. However, any problem you might have, if you face it armed with confidence you will have much better chances of beating it. For me it’s like having an armour that defends you from a lot of negativity. Someone said something bad about you? It will just bounce off of your confidence armour. It will help you filter all the doubt and self-doubt that might be surrounding you and that we all face from time to time. Whatever it is that you want in life confidence will help you get it. If you don’t feel confident you most likely won’t even try, and that equals failure right there. We need confidence (and self-esteem, they should go hand in hand) to give us that extra push to go in the direction of our dreams. We also need it in case that we fail, because we must know it happens to everyone and with confidence we’ll gather our strength and try again.
So, I can truly say that confidence is one of the key ingredients for a happy life. Still, I must mention that I talk about true confidence, the one that is a reflection of healthy self-esteem, and not the over the top fake confidence that makes you an arrogant bastard. First one comes from being sure in yourself, and the other one is just a messy way of covering one’s insecurities. Instead of trying to cover them up, be brave and face your fears. Work on getting to know yourself, both the flaws and the virtues. Appreciate the good side and work on improving the bad one. Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t be a perfectionist. We can never achieve perfection as we are only human after all. But, we can accept our little flaws and turn them into these quirky characteristics that make us unique.