I think of myself as a rather calm and quiet person, but sometimes things just get to be too much! Either someone is stepping on your toes repeatedly, or life decides to test your patience over and over again. As these situations are bound to happen in everyone’s lives, it is good to find a way to deal with it. Here is how I try to fight it and beat the stress with these tricks I’ve learnt along the way (sometimes it works, sometimes not, but like everything else – it gets better and easier with practice).
Is it worth it? – There are situations in life when you have to fight till your last breath. There are people who you should not let go no matter how hard they mess up. We need to recognise those situations and know who those people are to us. What we should also be aware of is that those situation make up a small percentage of our everyday lives. The stress we encounter on a day-to-day basis comes from small things. So, when you catch yourself stressing about something that doesn’t really matter just remember to breath. Inhale and exhale and calm your whole body. Remember that stressing out won’t help you fix anything, just the opposite, it will make everything worse. So take a second to relax, let go of the tension and then continue.
Know your priorities. – If you prioritise your life you will realise the things that really matter and the ones that are not so important. Keep being focused on the things that are ranked high on your priority list and don’t get too worked up about the rest. We stress so much about things that don’t really matter and that ruins the quality of our everyday life. So, when something happens in my life I ask myself:” Will this still matter in 3 years from now?”. You would be surprised how rarely the answer is yes.
Shift your focus. – You are stuck in the traffic, or your boss is getting on your nerve and there’s nothing you can do about it. Wrong. You may not be able to change the thing happening around you, but you can change your reaction to them. Try shifting your attention by focusing on something else. The truth is, focusing on something negative will only make you feel worse, so try to pay attention to positive things around you. And there is always something positive around us, we just don’t always see it.