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FOMO or Don’t have fun without me

  • Ivona Josipovic
  • 7 February 2016
We are glued to our phones. The constant scrolling and checking out whatโ€™s happening with our friends and in the world around us canโ€™t be good, right?

We were always aware, to some extent, that there is always something going on, thereโ€™s always some cool concert or festival, parties to attend, places to visit and new things to try. Still, the internet and all the social platforms made it all follow us around 24/7 being just a click away. It somehow works in a contradictory way.ย Even when we are present somewhere we tend to miss out on things because we might be on our phones all the time or weโ€™re too busy sharing pictures of those moments for others to see, instead of enjoying them ourselves by being in the moment 100%. When we are not there or doing something cool and instagraming it, we usually check out what others are up to and thatโ€™s when we get this cold feeling rolling down our spine. The fear of missing out. Yes, FOMO officially exists and can be added to the list of things modern age brought upon us. You know like restless leg syndrome and other terms your grandma may not believe are real. So why are we all freaking out? It would be fair to say that people have been aware of their mortality since, well, the beginning of humans. Still, we tend to neglect that fact so that our everyday lives would be easier.

fomo

At some point and at a certain age that fact comes to hunt us and we start panicking and thinking about wether we have done everything we could have done. Nowadays, when the time seems to be moving so much faster and we live in the era of megalomania and hyper production, it seems like we should have a daily dose of freaking out about our lives. Why is that happening? The fact that we share such a big part of our lives online makes us slightly depressed if we spend a few days without a cool picture posted or without checking in to some cool bar/restaurant/club. We have the need for audience. Doing something for ourselves and for the joy of doing it doesnโ€™t seem to satisfy us anymore. Weโ€™ll measure the success and how much fun we had by the numbers of likes and comments. We will put our best foot forward and show the world specifically chosen moments that have often been staged, edited and filtered. Through all that editing, have we lost touch with reality? Probably yes. If we would realise that all those posts donโ€™t represent someoneโ€™s real life but the selection of its best moments, we probably wouldnโ€™t have terms like FOMO. What are we really missing out on? Are we worried about not living our lives to the fullest or just worried about looking like our lives are boring to our Instagram followers? If we would sometimes switch our phones, turn off our egos and actually just lived, it would all get better even without a filter.

#IGuaranteeIt

This article was originally written by Ivona for Red Milk Magazine.ย 

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Ivona Josipovic is a co-founder of The Smoke Detector, writer, fashion stylist, social media manager, curious creature, chocolate lover.

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11 comments
  1. Lili says:
    8 February 2016 at 05:42

    I completely agree! I don’t have much fomo because me, my husband, and most of my friends spend our days working and our nights cooking dinner and on the couch with our families. But that is real life and I totally enjoy it ๐Ÿ™‚ Great post!
    ~Lili
    http://www.thefashionsalt.com

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    1. Ivona says:
      9 February 2016 at 16:47

      Thank for sharing your opinion, Lili. I agree with you, the older I get the more I appreciate everyday life and the small joys it brings me. No feeling fomo when you are surrounded with your loved ones.

      Reply
  2. Lemiza says:
    8 February 2016 at 13:31

    Woow, such a great post! Thank you so much for sharing your tought regarding all the internet world.
    Btw you really have a beautiful blog with amazing content.

    Have a wonderful day!

    xx
    http://www.verzali.com

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    1. Ivona says:
      9 February 2016 at 16:45

      Thank you so much, Lemiza. Have a wonderful day yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

      Reply
  3. Len Parent says:
    8 February 2016 at 14:30

    Awesome post. Thanks for sharing babe. Have a great week.
    Much love, Len
    http://www.lenparent.com๏ปฟ

    Reply
  4. Vanessa @ Living in Steil says:
    8 February 2016 at 16:54

    This is such a great post, and sadly very true of the world we live in today. We focus so much on technology and social media, that we often forget how to live in the moment and be present. Thanks for the reminder to take a break from time-to-time and just enjoy the moments as they happen.

    http://www.livinginsteil.com

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    1. Ivona says:
      9 February 2016 at 16:49

      We all need to be more present, right? Disconnect from internet and reconnect with life. Thanks for stopping by, Vanessa. Have a nice day!

      Reply
  5. ANNA says:
    9 February 2016 at 09:10

    Great thoughts.

    I’M HAPPY THAT I STILL KNOW WHAT REAL LIFE IS.

    Reply
  6. Daniela says:
    9 February 2016 at 11:02

    I like to read your articles. I always find thoughts, views and concerns similar to my own here, written in the best possible way. i totally agree with this article. I try to find balance between my online and real life, as I believe the real one is what really matters. it’s not always easy, especially when you have your own blog or website. It’s important to have some really private time only for us and our loved ones, that doesn’t need to look good on the Instagram.

    Daniela

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    1. Ivona says:
      9 February 2016 at 16:44

      Thank you so much, Daniela. Writing online sometimes feels like screaming into an endless space, so it always makes me super happy to hear when people enjoy reading my articles and can relate to the topics. You made my day ๐Ÿ™‚

      Reply
  7. Layla says:
    9 February 2016 at 14:50

    This is such a lovely post! Love the photos ๐Ÿ™‚

    Layla xx

    http://www.sprinklesofstyle.co.uk

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